New Year - New You

​Ever heard or said "New Year - New Me." Traditionally, this phrase means setting resolutions to start/ stop or add/ lose something for growth. Did you set a resolution for 2020? How did you do? I started and lost a few, and kept one even during pandemic. I'm ready for a do over. Let's really try something new this year by changing resolution into intentional goals using skills.

A favorite DBT skill and a beautiful gift for your new year is Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance is the ability to accept ourselves (and others) for who we are, where we are, and how we got to this point. No, you probably don't like this reality. Yes, it is your reality. Take a breath or two here because knowing your reality gives you the power to start making your changes. Here, we can decide what we need to effectively move forward as our best self: Right now, Today, in 5 days, 60 days, or by this time next year.

This is also how goal setting works. First - know where you are, how you are, who surrounds you, and what are your current resources. Second - identify what & when are you working toward (goal for today, a 30-day goal, or 2 year plan). Finally - start effectively gathering, learning, and taking action toward your goals. 

Healthy and balanced growth needs the authentic you. Acceptance does not mean approval. It means this is the real me and the real moment so now what? Practice accepting a past moment without judgment "yep, I did that and I will/ will not do ____ again." Every step teaches you something.  Now practice accepting the present moment; "okay, so here I am and I need ___, so what do I do now." Some moments are easier to accept an others may need a little time or support. But, now you know the who, what, and how of moving forward.

We wish you the brightest and best of 2021 and Now is another amazing starting moment. Let's grow together.

​Contribution by Misty Andersen

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